There Is No Such Thing As A Homosexual Man: Just Heterosexual Men With A Homosexual Problem
This conversation will primarily center around male sexuality, however the transverse of the logic applies to women as well.
Every now and then I have the opportunity to have a real conversation with a man who claims he is “homosexual.” Well, as Christians we know there is no such thing as a human that is born homosexual, that in fact all men and women are straight, yet some have a “homosexual problem.” This means that due to a variety of reason, none of which include genetics, a man or a woman chooses a path that is opposite of what he was biologically designed to do. Now, in a nutshell, for males, this is caused by a lack of fatherly influence at milestone ages throughout the childhood, and an over-bonding to the mother and female figures/relatives in the boy’s life, this the “male” or the manly image is foreign to him once he is grown up and an adult, thus he is “attracted” to men. Naturally, as humans, both men and women are attracted to what they do not understand and what they have little familiarity with, thus the child who grows up with only one main sexual influence will be skewed as an adult. Many statistics back up this idea of lacking influence, and it is seen in studies of the single parent home. Many times, girls and boys who grow up to favor the same sex come from single parent homes, or homes where one parent was distant, separated, or not involved with the child. In many cases, we want to cast blame 100% on the parents, and while yes, the child sexuality is mainly formed by the parents, many parents find themselves in shock thinking they were actively following the right steps and guidelines along the way as a parent. This is evident in cases where the father is as involved as the mother, yet the child still claims that as an adult he is “homosexual,” when in fact he is a heterosexual man with a homosexual problem. The father, although involved in these case, have been found to be submissive fathers, and more like mothers who coddle their children at every turn, and never let the child learn the “hard way” to put it easily. The over-coddling of childern is also a segway into homosexuality problems later in life, especially if that coddling is done by a father to a son. The perspective of the “dad” becomes anaogous with the “mother” and the child is left with two mothers, and no real male influence to create a boy who is familiar with male/masculine examples.
Sometimes in society there is too many absolutes thrown from both the left and the right sides of the isles, and both sides want to pinpoint how a person gets a certain way, why they get that way, and close the book on it and move on. Heterosexual men who have homosexual problems call themselves “gay,” yet don’t know about their own confusion, because so few of them try to analyze and really dg deep on how their childhood has shaped them. the “gay” men who realize they are really heterosexual later in life are few and far between, usually only coming to such a conclusion after years of introspect and counseling. Their homosexuality in fact though is a repairative behavior based on their childhood. Many gay men take exception to the term “repairative therapy,” thinking that it means someone is trying to repair them, or a counselor looks at them as needing to be “fixed.” but the term “RepairativeTherapy” is actually referring to their homosexual/gay lifestyle that has consumed them. Rather than a counselor using this term as an action he would perform on a patient, this term is actually a synonym for the gay mans actions and lifestyle. Claiming to be “gay” and claiming to be a homosexual is their own unconscious internal repairative therapy that goes on inside of themselves at all times. Their confused lifestyle is their subconscious way of handling what was lacking in their childhood, and now being “gay” is like a patchwork job, just trying to hold themselves together. Gay men, statistically as a whole, cry more than heterosexual women. Some people might find this hard to swallow given that women tend to be more fragile, and prone to crying in certain situations, however gay men who did not have the right childhood influences growing up and lacked a strong male influence in their life to familiarize themselves with who they were inside and what they are to become, have many sessions where they claim to just “break down” for no reason at all. This overflow of emotions is usually cast off by the public as being a “wimp” or a “sissy”, but this boy was never shown how to act in this situation, perhaps was over protected by mother since father was not around to do his job, and the balance of the child’s sexuality is thrown into a state that soon, as he grown into adolescents just becomes “the way he is.” As Christians, outside the situation, when we hear a gay man say, “Well, this is just the way I am,” we are to understand that what he means to say, yet unconsciously does not know it yet, is “I am this way because of my view of male sexuality is augmented and skewed based on the reality of my childhood, environment, and internal choices I have made along the way on how to handle those situations in my childhood.” you will never heard a gay man say this to you, because he has not examined his childhood, gone back to see what was different about his life, and why things turned out the way they did. He has no reason to do this, because he thinks “being gay” is equivalent with “being yourself,” so in rare cases further investigation is never done by gay men, and they continue on with their homosexual problem, never knowing it is a “problem.”
Now, on a different note, I recently asked a question based on my interaction with “gay” men I have encountered periodically in my life. Notice, I did not say homosexual men, but I said “gay men”, because there are no homosexual men. Instead, these are the heterosexual men who have substituted the gay lifestyle as their repairative therapy in their life to cope with their ongoing internal sexuality identity crisis. I asked this question on the Yahoo! Answers website; which is definitely not the place to go for 100% factual truth, however it does give a good sampling of what people really believe and are really being taught. spend an hour on Yahoo! Answers, and you will be alarmed at what some people honestly believe is the truth. Here is a screenshot of my question, along with the answer that was voted as the “Best Answer” by the Yahoo site users out of the 20 or 30 answers given, along with my comment after the question was closed, explaining the irony of the answer that was chosen as best (which was actually left by a gay man in fact, proving my point).
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